Friends?

I find it generally sad to lose friends. Friends that become strangers, enemies even. People that you knew inside and out, and now you can only see the hate, the fear, the hurt. All the things i can’t stand.

I don’t pretend to be perfect. I’ll be the first one to admit my flaws. You don’t need to throw them in my face, because with everything i do, i see them. I know broken friendships take two people to break them, but for once i cant see what i did wrong other than stick up for myself.

The truth is i miss him. He was my best friend on this earth. The one i could call no matter what mood i was in. The one i could turn to no matter what happened. I miss that.

Now its dirty looks and vicious words. New best friends and a change of pace.

I don’t care if you’ve found a “new best friend”. Because i’m not replacing you. You were my best friend. It’s gone now. But i will never say you’re replaced, because you can’t be.

Don’t think i’m apologizing for anything. Because i don’t see any fault in what i did. But know i miss my best friend. But that’s not who you are anymore. You’ve changed.

Religion?

Okay, i completely understand that Religion isn’t a new thing. It’s been around since the dawn of time. But what was written long ago can not apply word for word in today’s society.


Take Homosexuality for example.


I was around on facebook today and on a friends page, another friend of his bashed him for believing that gays/lesbians should have the right to be married. She also said that if he believe in “The Book” he wouldn’t say those things.


My question is, Why are you letting a book that wasn’t even written by “God” dictate what YOU think about OTHER PEOPLES lives? It has nothing to do with you. They aren’t hitting on you. They aren’t trying to have sex with you. They want to spend the rest of their lives with the other person they love and they want it to be the same as if they loved the opposite gender. It’s still LOVE.


As soon as i saw this, I posted the following on my facebook page;

‘Why would a “God” tell people they can’t be who they are. When did Love become a sin? Why is loving someone, just because it’s the same gender, called Lust and can not POSSIBLY be considered love. And why is it that FRIENDS can’t accept because a book says so. God is supposed to LOVE. ACCEPT. CARE. and doesn’t cast someone aside because of who they LOVE. My question is, What if a book told you your love was wrong?’


  I immediately got some feed back. Some telling me jokingly that “God” isn’t real. Some playing it off as just a joke. But one of my friends posted “Yes he is (saying god is real). But i do see your point. My orientation isn’t something my religion believes in but it’s who i am.”

That is truly sad to me. For someone to believe in something or someone so much that they claim faith to them. They pray. They go to church. They do exactly what their religion tells them to do, but they’re casted away as sinner and are “damned to hell”. I just cant possibly see how that is right.
The only proof i have EVER been told that to be “gay” is a sin, is that in the Bible a man is stoned to death because he was “caught laying with another man”. That is only a matter of interpretation. Now did they mean Man as in Male, or did they mean Man as in MANKIND. I’m not a very religious person, but i have read a bit and every time a man or woman is referred to and that specific person doesn’t have an important name, they are called Man.
Maybe that whole story had the underlying meaning of virtue? Maybe it had NOTHING to do with being gay/lesbian/bisexual. Maybe it just means don’t sleep around (and get caught)?
I’m in no way bashing all religion. I think it’s important to some people and i would NEVER want to talk away someones life, happiness, beliefs. But in the same way i think it is completely wrong to hate someone because of who they love.
Live. Laugh. Love.
Live your own life.Laugh because of the good things.Love who you love.
If someone loves the same gender, what does it matter to you? They aren’t ruining society. They aren’t taking away your family. Just because they exist doesn’t mean your whole life is going to come crumbling down. Fear is what provokes hatred. Hatred provokes fear. Take one out, and the equation is ruined. Stop the hate, stop the fear.
Because if today somewhere in the world some scientist found a book that dated OLDER than the original Bible, and it said that a Man and Woman to be married is WRONG because some “higher power” will cast you away to a place that no one has been able to find or see, what would happen then? Would marriage be banned all together? Or would everyone try to find some alternative explanation to the story?
That’s my question to ask. And the question to ask yourself. Would your “god” tell you to hate someone because they Love?

(And just so it can’t be slapped in my face later, I’m talking about LOVE. Not creepy pedophile “i love children” type of thing. I mean two consenting adults, that love each other for who they are, even if they are the same sex)